How do I keep my own friends and community without neglecting my spouse?

Good friends and community are healthy for the soul, as long as they do not take the place and time that rightly belong to your spouse. Keep up ties with same-sex friends and family who support your marriage. Balance your time so your spouse does not feel second place to outsiders. Avoid friends who stir up trouble or belittle your marriage. Include your spouse in some of your social activities so that no separate world grows between you. Come home to your spouse with a fresher heart after time with friends. This balance nourishes the marriage rather than harming it. See communication & emotions.

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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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