I expect my spouse to meet all my emotional needs. Is that realistic?

No single human being can meet every one of your emotional needs; expecting that burdens your spouse and disappoints you. Your spouse is your main companion, but some needs are met through Allah, good friends, family and healthy interests. Tell your spouse about your important needs, but do not make them your only source of happiness. Build your relationship with Allah as your main support, the one that never disappoints. Appreciate what your spouse is able to give without demanding perfection. Realistic expectations bring gratitude, not disappointment. See mental health.

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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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