My spouse has changed after a major loss. How do I support them without losing our relationship?

Calamity changes a person, and your spouse may need time and patience to recover. Do not demand that they go back to how they were straight away; give them room to grieve or adjust. Be present with calm support, not with pressure or criticism. Keep showing love even if they become quieter or more sensitive for a while. Encourage them to get help if the change is deep or long-lasting. Pray for strength for them and for yourself. Patient love in hard times binds hearts most closely. See mental health.

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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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