I expect my spouse to know my needs without being told, then feel disappointed when they do not. What should I do?

Expecting your spouse to read your mind usually ends in disappointment that could have been avoided. A spouse, however loving, cannot guess what you want if you do not say it. Train yourself to ask clearly and politely, for example: ‘I'd be really happy if you could help me sort this out.’ This does not lessen their love; it makes it easier for them to love you in the right way. Avoid testing your spouse with silence and then getting angry when they fail to guess. Show appreciation when they meet your request. Straightforward communication is fairer to both of you than hidden expectations. See communication & emotions.