My spouse is afraid to share their past with me. How do I build a sense of safety?

Give your spouse the safety to be honest by not punishing every single thing they share. A past that has been repented of should not be dragged up or used as a weapon. Show that you value honesty above perfection, and keep their secrets. Avoid interrogating them about past sins that Allah has already covered. Focus on who they are now, not who they used to be. When someone knows they will not be judged, they open up more easily. Trust is built when openness is met with love. See communication & emotions.

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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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