How do I look after myself without feeling guilty about neglecting my family?

Looking after yourself is not selfishness; a healthy mind and body let you give better to your family. Make time for rest, worship, health and permissible interests without guilt. A spouse who is exhausted and drained finds it hard to be patient and gentle. Ask your spouse to share the load so you both have room to breathe. Set healthy boundaries against excessive demands. A balance between giving and recharging protects you from burnout. Your family gets the best from a self that is cared for. See mental health.

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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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