My friend keeps stirring me up to be unhappy with my spouse. How do I handle this?

A friend who sows dissatisfaction with your spouse is damaging your marriage, even in the name of ‘standing up for you’. Conversations that keep dwelling on your spouse's shortcomings plant seeds that grow into anger. Change the subject when the talk heads that way, and do not reveal private marital matters to people who like to stir things up. Draw close to friends who make peace and remind you of good, not those who inflame. If there is a real problem with your spouse, take it to your spouse or a counsellor, not turn it into gossip. Protect your relationship from damaging tongues. See communication & emotions.

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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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