🏡 Rights & responsibilities · #196

I am afraid my husband will marry in secret without my knowledge. How do I deal with this fear?

This fear is understandable, but it should not take over your life as long as there are no real signs. In Malaysia, polygyny through the lawful channel requires the permission of the Syariah Court, and the existing wife is usually called to be heard. Instead of tormenting yourself with assumptions, build open communication so your husband feels comfortable being straightforward. Share your worries calmly and listen to his explanation. Strengthen your daily relationship so trust grows. If the suspicion comes from real signs, talk honestly or seek advice. See counselling.

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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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