🏡 Rights & responsibilities · #197

My husband once mentioned that he had thought about polygyny in the past. How do I recover my sense of security?

A thought that once crossed his mind is not an action, and it does not necessarily threaten your marriage today. Do not judge your husband for something that merely crossed his mind and was never acted on. Rather than bringing it up again, rebuild your sense of security through daily communication and affection. Ask him to reassure you if needed, but avoid making it a recurring topic. Strengthen your heart with prayer and by building your self-confidence. Focus on the real relationship now, not a passing thought that is already behind you. See communication & emotions.

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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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