🏡 Rights & responsibilities · #100

My husband avoids it every time I want to discuss a problem. What should I do?

Many men avoid discussions because they fear they will turn into a quarrel, so make it feel safe for him. Choose a calm time and start in a gentle tone, not with a list of faults. Bring up only one issue at a time, and set a time limit so that he knows the conversation will not drag on. If talking face to face is hard, try writing a short note that is honest but not accusing. Praise him every time he is willing to talk. If things stay stuck and the problem keeps growing, suggest seeing a family counsellor together. See counselling.

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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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