I ran into my co-wife at the market and did not know how to behave. What should I do?

A polite and calm manner is the choice that best protects your dignity and leaves no room for drama. There is no need to pretend to be friendly if the relationship has not reached that point, but a greeting of salam or a kind nod is enough. Avoid sarcasm, rudely turning your face away, or showing off something to hurt her. If you feel nervous, just act normally and carry on with your errands. Remember, people around you may be watching, and your good character represents you and your religion. Afterwards, let go of any discomfort and do not keep bringing it up. A brief encounter need not ruin your day. See relations between co-wives.

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