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How do I tell the difference between a true intuition and baseless suspicion about my spouse?

A true intuition stands on real evidence, while empty suspicion stands only on images in the mind. The Prophet ﷺ said: “Beware of suspicion, for suspicion is the most untruthful of speech” (Sahih al-Bukhari 6064). Before judging, ask yourself: is this based on things you actually saw, or only on assumptions and comparisons? If there is a real concern, you can ask your spouse openly and give room for an explanation, rather than investigating in secret. If there is no evidence, do not let your mind build a story. Thinking well of others eases the heart and keeps the relationship from cracking for no reason. See relationship psychology.

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Sahih al-Bukhari 6064
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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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