🧭 Preparation & choosing a spouse · #86

Should we share religious goals together before marriage?

Yes, a couple who share religious goals walk in the same direction, and that becomes the strongest bond in a marriage. Discuss dreams such as raising righteous children, performing hajj together, bringing the Quran to life at home, and helping each other towards Paradise. The believers pray to be granted from their spouses and offspring “a comfort to our eyes, and make us leaders of those who are mindful of You” (Surah al-Furqan 25:74). These shared goals strengthen you when you are tested and give meaning beyond daily affairs. Write down a few hopes and revisit them from time to time. See criteria for choosing a spouse.

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Surah al-Furqan 25:74

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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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