🧭 Preparation & choosing a spouse · #123

We both work. Should we agree before the akad on the future wife's contribution to household expenses?

Yes, early agreement avoids misunderstanding, as long as it is understood that maintenance (nafkah) remains the husband's responsibility. A wife's income is her own; if she contributes to household expenses, that is a kindness, not an obligation. Many couples still choose to share because of the high cost of living, and that is good if done willingly. Discuss clearly what the husband covers, what the wife is willing to help with, and for how long. Write a summary as a shared reminder, not as a cold contract. Agree too to review it when circumstances change, for example when the wife is on maternity leave. Clarity today avoids feeling taken advantage of later. See maintenance guide.

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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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