🧭 Preparation & choosing a spouse · #78

Our levels of religious practice differ a little. How do we align expectations before marriage?

Talk honestly about the kind of religious home you both hope for, rather than simply judging each other. Ask practical things: praying in congregation, reading the Quran at home, how you celebrate and spend your time, and the children's religious upbringing. Small differences can grow together if both are sincere and gentle. But do not marry solely in the hope of changing your partner completely, because a change of heart belongs to Allah and is not guaranteed. Support each other without forcing or belittling. If you want to deepen your understanding before taking the step, attend a course or consult a trusted teacher. See husbands' course and wives' course.

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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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