🧭 Preparation & choosing a spouse · #121

I give my parents a monthly allowance. Should my future wife know the amount before we marry?

Yes, it is good that she knows, because it is a fixed commitment that will affect your new family's budget. Honouring your parents is a noble duty, and a good wife will respect it. But she has the right to understand the real picture before the akad, not to be surprised after it. Explain the amount, why it is needed, and whether it may increase as your parents grow older. Then show how your wife's maintenance (nafkah) and the household's needs remain secured. A wife's and children's maintenance must not be sacrificed, and service to parents should not be stopped either; this balance is what needs to be planned together. See maintenance of parents.

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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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