Do we need to agree on how to raise children before we marry?

Yes, discussing how to raise children before marriage saves a lot of conflict later, even before any children arrive. Discuss the basics: the priority of religious upbringing, your stance on discipline and gentleness, the schools you hope for, and how the work of caring for the children will be shared. You do not need to agree on everything, but you need to know where you differ and whether those differences can be bridged. This conversation also reveals a person's real values. Ask for concrete examples, not only general principles, for example ‘if the child is stubborn, what would you do?’ Early understanding makes you one team when challenges come. See educating the family.