🧭 Preparation & choosing a spouse · #75

Should we discuss how many children we want and when to start, before the marriage contract (akad)?

Yes, expectations about children are one of the big things to discuss before the akad, not to be assumed. Some couples want children right away, some want to wait a while to adjust, and some face health concerns. Talk openly and respectfully, without pressuring anyone, because children are a provision in Allah's hands and plans are only an effort. If there are health or fertility concerns, consult a doctor for advice, and the religious office if there is a question of rulings. This conversation is easier before the emotions of marriage are involved. Early agreement reduces disappointment and misunderstanding later. See criteria for choosing a spouse.

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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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