🕊️ Conflict & resolution · #242

The stress of caring for my addicted spouse makes me feel I cannot go on living. What can I do?

This feeling is a sign you have carried a heavy burden alone for too long, and you need help right away. Your life is precious and this burden is not one to carry alone. If you are thinking of harming yourself, call the police on 999 if you are in danger, and Talian Kasih 15999 for support at any time. Tell someone you trust today, and see a doctor or counsellor as soon as possible. Let go of the idea that you must save your spouse on your own; that is work that needs experts. Look after yourself first so that you can go on loving. See mental health.

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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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