🕊️ Conflict & resolution · #244

My child feels ashamed and angry towards his addicted father. How do I help?

Your child's shame and anger are natural, and they need to be heard, not suppressed or rebuked. Give your child room to express it without forcing them to forgive right away. Explain that addiction is an illness being treated, without denying the pain your child feels. Make sure they know their worth is not decided by their father's problem. Encourage them to keep up with school, friendships and activities that are good for the soul. If the anger or sadness drags on, a school counsellor or professional can help. Be a consistent safe place for them. See educating the family.

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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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