🏡 Rights & responsibilities · #213

My husband does not dare to correct his family even when they go too far with me. What should I do?

A husband is responsible for protecting his wife, and keeping silent in the face of his family's wrongdoing is not dutifulness. Understand that correcting his own parents or siblings is genuinely hard for him, so help him rather than pushing him in anger. Choose one important issue at a time and calmly state its effect on you: ‘I feel hurt when this happens; I need your support.’ Suggest gentle words he can use without offending his family. Appreciate every time he stands up for you, so his courage grows. If he keeps allowing you to be wronged, consider couples counselling. See communication & emotions.

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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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