My husband doesn't understand when I am sad. How do I tell him?

Tell him clearly what you need, because many husbands try to solve the problem when their wife only wants to be heard. Choose a calm time, not when he is tired or busy. Say it directly, for example: ‘I don't need a solution right now; I just want you to sit and listen.’ Give him examples of what helps, such as a hug or simply asking how you are. Men often learn to listen when given specific guidance, not sarcasm. Praise him when he gets it right, so that the good habit lasts. See communication & emotions.