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🤝 Existing wife & prospective wife · #102

My husband is jealous and unhappy that I am active in volunteer work and dakwah programmes. How do we find a middle way?

Serving the community is noble, and the best way is to ease your husband's worries without giving up the good you do. First listen to what your husband is really worried about, whether it is family time being affected, mixing with others, or feeling neglected. Address that cause specifically: make sure household responsibilities are looked after, keep proper limits in mixing, and involve your husband so he feels part of it, not shut out. At the same time, a husband should support his wife's good works as long as they are within the limits of Islamic law. Find a balance both of you are comfortable with, perhaps by choosing suitable programmes and times. Discuss it as a team, not as opposing sides. See communication & emotions.
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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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