🤝 Existing wife & prospective wife · #103

I feel jealous when my husband gives a lot of attention to his child, my stepchild. How do I manage this feeling?

Your husband's attention to his child is a father's responsibility and love, not a rivalry against you. The feeling of being sidelined needs to be acknowledged, but asking your husband to love his child less will only hurt everyone. The stepchild is not to blame for the adults' situation, and your kindness to the child often becomes a bridge of love. State your need for time alone with your husband specifically, not by competing with the child. Find a pleasant role in the child's life so you feel part of the family. Pray for peace of heart. Love is not a cake that shrinks when it is shared. See relationship psychology.

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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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