🤝 Existing wife & prospective wife · #117

Ever since my husband said he wants to marry again, I feel I am not worth enough. How do I rebuild my confidence?

Your worth is not determined by your husband's decision to take another wife, but by your taqwa (God-consciousness) and character before Allah. Men take more than one wife for many reasons, and it is not a measure of your shortcomings as a wife or as a woman. Stop punishing yourself with the assumption 'I am not good enough'. Rebuild your confidence through the things you control: worship, knowledge, health, friendships and something you are good at. Spend time with people who remind you of who you are. Treat yourself with compassion, as you would advise a hurting friend. Confidence built on reliance on Allah is sturdier than confidence that depends on people's opinions. See mental health.

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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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