My spouse feels neglected because I still often go out with friends after marrying. How do I balance this?

Marriage does not require you to drop all your friends, but your priority now moves to your spouse and your home. Your spouse's feeling of neglect is a signal that should be heard, not scolded as excessive jealousy. Discuss together how often going out with friends is reasonable, and make sure your spouse is not often left alone. Include your spouse now and then in suitable gatherings, and keep your social life within the limits of the Shariah. Set aside dedicated time for the two of you so your spouse is sure they are your priority. Good friendships can still be kept as long as they do not sacrifice your spouse's rights. Find a balance rather than cutting off either one. See rights of husband and wife.

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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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