🏡 Rights & responsibilities · #324

My spouse is less romantic after marriage than during our courtship. What can I do?

Expressions of love often change form after marriage, and fewer sweet words do not necessarily mean less love. Some people show love through work, providing and faithfulness, not words or gifts. Tell your spouse specifically what makes you feel loved, because they may not be aware of that need. Ask gently, not by complaining or comparing with your courtship days. Show the affection you hope for first, because love is usually returned. Appreciate the way your spouse expresses love even if it differs from yours. Romance can be revived with effort from both sides, rather than waiting for it to come back by itself. See everyday adab.

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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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