🤝 Existing wife & prospective wife · #181

My co-wife is due to give birth soon. Should I offer some help?

Offering help to a co-wife who is about to give birth is a great kindness, even though it is not obligatory for you. You can send food, help look after her older children, or simply send prayers and kind wishes. Do it within your means and sincerely, not because you feel forced or to show off. If your heart is not ready, it is enough not to hurt her and to pray for her safety. Small kindnesses in hard moments often melt long-standing tension. Intend it for Allah's sake, and let it grow naturally without pressure. See co-wife relations.

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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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