🤝 Existing wife & prospective wife · #182

How do we coordinate the children's school matters and activities between two homes?

Make the children's welfare the shared focus, and arrange clear coordination so that no one is neglected. Agree on a way of communicating about the children only, such as school timetables, health and expenses, and make sure your husband knows and supports that arrangement. Avoid turning the children's matters into a contest or a display of who is better. If discussions keep creating tension, ask your husband to be the main go-between. Treat your co-wife's children well when they are with you, because they are not to blame for the adults' decisions. A big family that coordinates calmly gives children a sense of security. See children & polygyny.

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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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