🤝 Existing wife & prospective wife · #171

I am hurt by my husband's polygyny and don't want my children going to the other house. Am I wrong?

Your worry and hurt are understandable, but keeping children from knowing their siblings usually harms the children, not punishes the adults. The wound in your heart is real and deserves care, so find ways to heal it, such as talking to someone you trust or a counsellor. At the same time, separate your own struggle from your children's need to have siblings. Begin with short, controlled visits so that you also feel safe. Watch your children's reactions, because most children are happy to gain companions who treat them as family. If your concern is specific, such as safety, discuss it directly with your husband. See co-wife relations.

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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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