🤝 Existing wife & prospective wife · #180

What privacy boundaries should be kept between my home and my co-wife's?

Each home is entitled to its own privacy; what happens in one home is not material for stories in the other. Avoid asking your husband about personal matters in your co-wife's home, and do not investigate through the children or others either. Likewise, keep your own home's affairs from spreading. If something truly needs coordinating, such as the children's matters, discuss it directly and politely. Keeping these boundaries reduces suspicion and quarrels. Respecting each other's privacy actually protects your own heart from things that only add to your unease. See co-wife relations.

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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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