🏡 Rights & responsibilities · #360

Can I turn down frequent overtime for the sake of my family, or is that irresponsible?

Looking after your family is a legitimate responsibility, and turning down excessive overtime for their sake is not laziness. Assess the real need: is the overtime for basic needs, or merely for wants and workplace pressure? If your finances allow, set a reasonable limit and convey it to your employer professionally. If the income is truly needed, plan with your spouse how to balance it for the time being. Remember that your children need your presence, not just your provision. Look for more balanced work if the situation keeps putting pressure on the family. See duties of husband and wife.

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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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