🏡 Rights & responsibilities · #359

Should I discuss it with my spouse before accepting a new job or a promotion?

Yes; a new job changes the family's time, energy and life, so it is a decision that should be made together, not announced afterwards. Share details such as working hours, travel and the effect on childcare before deciding. Listen openly to your spouse's view, because they may see effects you have overlooked. Allah praises the believers whose “affairs are decided by mutual consultation among them” (Surah asy-Syura 42:38). This is not humbly asking permission, but respecting that big decisions affect everyone. If the two of you disagree, find a middle way or put it off until things are clear. See duties of husband and wife.

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Surah asy-Syura 42:38

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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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