How do I look after the feelings of my eldest child, who is jealous while I am busy with the baby during confinement (pantang)?

An eldest child's jealousy of a new sibling is a normal feeling that should be accepted, not snapped at or ignored. He suddenly has to share attention that used to be his alone. Set aside special time for him every day, even briefly, so that he feels he is still loved. Involve him in caring for the baby with small, age-appropriate tasks, and praise him when he helps. Avoid blaming him for being jealous or comparing him with the baby. Ask your husband or family members to give him extra attention while you are busy breastfeeding. Assure him that your love has not lessened; there is simply one more person to love. See educating the family.