🧒 Raising children (tarbiyah) · #193

Our child picks up his cousins' bad habits when we get together. What should I do?

Protect your child from bad influences without cutting family ties (silaturahim); upbringing at home is the main defence. Strengthen your child's values and manners at home so that he knows how to tell good from bad. Supervise without smothering when they are with their cousins, and step in calmly if needed. Talk with your child afterwards about what is right, rather than scolding the cousins in front of them. Limit exposure to clearly harmful influences without insulting the family. Pray for your child and be his main example. Family relations are still to be kept with wisdom. See educating the family.

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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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