🧒 Raising children (tarbiyah) · #215

Our children are starting to be influenced by local culture that conflicts with our values. What should we do?

Face outside influence by strengthening values at home and a close relationship, not with bans and fear alone. Children who are close to their parents accept guidance more easily than those who are merely controlled. Discuss differences in values openly according to their age, and teach them to think, not just reject. Respect their identity while explaining religious limits with wisdom. Surround them with good friends and community as support. Praise every good choice they make. Avoid comparing them disparagingly with children back home. See educating the family.

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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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