🕊️ Conflict & resolution · #239

The extended family wants to keep the addiction problem secret out of shame. Is that right?

Covering faults is good, but total silence that blocks treatment only prolongs the suffering. There is a difference between not spreading a fault to the public and hiding a problem so that no one gets help. Keep it from people who will only gossip, but be open with those who can help, such as a counsellor or a rehabilitation agency. Do not let the family's shame override the safety and health of the member affected. Discuss with the family how to support recovery discreetly. True dignity lies in solving the problem, not hiding it. See counselling.

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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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