🏡 Rights & responsibilities · #227

Our family interferes in our decision to move house or change jobs. What should we do?

Major family decisions such as moving or changing jobs belong to the two of you, not the extended family. Listen to their views respectfully, because sometimes there is wisdom in them, but the final decision remains in your and your spouse's hands. Discuss it between the two of you first and agree before informing the family. Present your decision confidently and politely, not as asking permission. Avoid letting emotional pressure run your life. If they are disappointed, give them time to accept it without backing down from a sound decision. An independent household is healthier. See in-laws.

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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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