🏡 Rights & responsibilities · #231

My spouse has a chronic illness that affects our intimate life. How can we adjust?

Chronic illness changes intimacy, but it does not end love; needs simply have to be adjusted with compassion and patience. First understand your spouse's medical condition and follow the doctor's advice on what is safe and suitable. Intimacy is not limited to one form; gentle touch, hugs and loving words still bring you closer. Do not demand more than your ill spouse can manage, and the ill spouse should not feel guilty either. Talk openly about what feels comfortable. If the effects of the illness are severe, ask the doctor about treatment options. Your faithfulness in hard times is the most precious love. See intimacy etiquette.

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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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