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🤝 Existing wife & prospective wife · #129

After my husband took another wife, I am confused about whether I still love him. Is this normal?

Wounded love can indeed become blurred for a while, and this confusion is normal, not a sign that your marriage is certain to end. Hurt covers feelings of love for a time, like clouds covering the sun without putting it out. Do not rush to conclude that love has died; give your heart time to heal first. Focus on improving your emotional state, not on judging your love at its most painful moment. Keep treating him kindly and honestly, and notice whether the feeling returns as the hurt eases. If the emptiness drags on and weighs on you, couples or individual counselling can help you understand your own heart. Big decisions about the marriage are best postponed until you are calmer. See counselling.
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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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