How do I guard my heart and my gaze from others for the sake of my marriage?

Guarding your gaze and your heart is the first fortress that protects a marriage from cracking. Temptation begins with a gaze left unchecked and conversations that grow ever closer with someone who is not your spouse. Avoid private one-to-one conversations, whether face to face or online, with someone who could stir feelings. Turn your gaze away from what is forbidden, and fill your heart with remembrance of Allah and of your spouse. If a relationship begins to feel tempting, cut it off firmly before it grows. Invest those feelings and that attention back in your spouse. Keeping these boundaries is a sign of love and God-consciousness, not a restriction. See everyday adab.

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