Is it true that ghirah is not only romantic jealousy, but also a sense of guarding the family's honour?

Yes; the noblest ghirah is a protective zeal for what Allah holds sacred and for the family's honour, not only in matters of love. It moves a husband or wife to protect their spouse and children from things that are shameful or that damage their religion. This kind of ghirah makes you attentive to the family's social life, what they watch and their surroundings. Show it through gentle guidance and example, not coercion and shouting. Start by keeping the limits in your own home first before demanding it of others. Honour guarded with love lasts longer than honour forced through control. See relationship psychology.

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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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