🕊️ Conflict & resolution · #179

I was forced to hand over my gold and savings out of fear of my spouse's anger. What should I do?

Taking your gold and savings through fear is a violation of your ownership, and that property still belongs to you. A valid gift is born of free consent, not coercion or threats. If you feel in danger, call the police on 999, and Talian Kasih 15999 for advice and support. If possible, keep what remains in a safe place, such as an account or a safe deposit box only you hold. Gather proof of ownership such as receipts or letters. Legal Aid or the Syariah Court can explain how to reclaim your rights. Do not blame yourself for giving under pressure. See domestic violence.

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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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