My husband gives me far too little money and questions every cent I spend. Is this control?

Giving deliberately insufficient money and then checking every expense in order to control you is a form of financial abuse. This is different from discussing a budget fairly; here the aim is to make you weak and dependent. Your and your children's basic needs should not become a tool of pressure. If you feel unsafe, call the police on 999, and Talian Kasih 15999 for advice. Keep a record of expenses and the amounts given as evidence. A family counsellor or a Syariah Court officer can help assess a fair amount of maintenance. You have the right to be treated with dignity. See domestic violence.