Should I keep up my appearance and smell nice for my spouse even when we are just at home?

Taking care of your appearance for your spouse at home is part of honouring them, not a trivial matter. Many couples dress up for outsiders but let themselves go in front of the person who has the greatest right to it. There is no need to overdo it; being clean, neat and pleasantly fragrant is enough. This works both ways: the husband should also keep himself clean and smelling good for his wife. The wives of the salaf took care of themselves for their husbands as part of their love. Make it an everyday habit, not only when guests come. Small attentions like this say ‘you still matter to me’. See everyday adab.