🏡 Rights & responsibilities · #158

How should I welcome my spouse home from work so the house feels peaceful, not a battlefield of complaints?

The first few minutes after your spouse comes home set the tone for the whole evening. Avoid ambushing them with a list of problems or complaints the moment they step in; they are carrying their own tiredness too. Start with a warm greeting, salam, and a short space for them to breathe before talking about household matters. If you, who have been at home all day, are tired as well, say so kindly and ask for help, not in a blaming tone. Agree on a signal between the two of you that means ‘I need ten minutes' rest first’. Once both of you are calm, then deal with the household matters. See everyday adab.

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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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