⚖️ Polygyny: rulings & justice · #90

I am attracted to a woman. Should I go ahead and marry her as a second wife?

Attraction is not an automatic signal to marry again; it must first be tested against your ability, justice and the effect on your family. Feelings come and go, but the responsibilities of marriage remain. Start by lowering your gaze and keeping away from private conversations that feed the feeling. Ask yourself honestly: can I be just and support two households, or is this just a passing attraction? Draw closer again to your wife. If after calm self-reflection you are sure you are able and your intention is right, only then consider it, in the right and transparent way. Do not let one attraction damage the trust you already hold. See critical wisdom.

Sources

Surah an-Nisa' 4:3

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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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