🚪 Divorce, ʿiddah & rujuk · #152

I feel relieved after the divorce, and that makes me feel guilty. Is this feeling wrong?

Feeling relief is not a sin; it is often a sign that you have been carrying a heavy burden for a long time. Feelings are not deeds, and Allah does not punish the heart for feeling calm after pressure ends. Relief and sadness can also come together, even taking turns within a day. Use this calm well: be grateful, improve your routine of worship, and plan your new life calmly. What you need to watch is how you show it. Avoid celebrating it openly in a way that hurts your ex-spouse or children who may still be grieving. If your feelings are so mixed that they are hard to understand, talking to a counsellor can help. Refer to the mental health page.

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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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