🕊️ Conflict & resolution · #150

After my spouse's infidelity, I feel distant and find it hard to be close to them again. What do I do?

Feeling distant after betrayal is a natural response, not stubbornness, and intimacy cannot be forced to recover in a hurry. Emotional trust needs to return first before physical closeness feels comfortable again. Talk honestly about your feelings without guilt, and ask your spouse to be patient without pushing. Start again with small kinds of closeness you are comfortable with, as your heart allows. If the revulsion or trauma is deep and lasting, a counsellor can help you heal. Do not measure your progress by your spouse's expectations; this recovery and its pace are your own right. See counselling.

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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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