🧒 Raising children (tarbiyah) · #168

How do I manage a Hari Raya get-together of the siblings from two homes so that everyone enjoys it?

Hari Raya is the best opportunity to bring siblings from two homes together when it is planned early with a clear intention. Discuss the visiting schedule with your husband well before Raya so that no side feels left out or rushed. Arrange activities that involve all the children, such as games, photos or going visiting relatives together. Avoid comparing clothes, duit raya (festive money) or gifts among the children, because that sours the atmosphere fastest. Focus on the joy of gathering, not on who gets the most attention. If there is still tension, celebrate in small groups first before a big gathering. See in-laws.

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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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